When I was 7 I had some new friends over for a playdate. We were in the garage playing school. I was in my favorite role as the teacher. I loved teaching about grammar and spelling–two of my favorite subjects. After my friends left, a family member said to me, ” You should try not to be so bossy or you won’t have any friends.” They didn’t say this to me to be mean, they really wanted me to have friends and be happy, but they heard me bossing people around and was fearful I would push them away.
Having just moved to San Francisco and not knowing a single soul, these new friends were really important to me. I didn’t want to be outcasted. I had already run into some bullies and finally I had some girls who were excited to hang out with me! So I took that part of me, that bossy, controlling girl that appeared that day and I blocked her. It wasn’t a conscious blocking, but she was done. I wanted no part of her.
The problem with this situation is that this bossy girl was a very unskillful, inexperienced and underdeveloped leader waiting to emerge and by me blocking her that day, I was also blocking her Becoming. Read more
Holy moly! It’s crazy out there! I don’t know about you, but I am constantly struggling with the desire to keep informed of what’s going on in the world and the need—for the sake of my health and wellbeing—to be away from it.
On one hand, I feel that if I am going to be an active participant in this society, I need to stay informed. On the other hand, the weight I feel from so many mixed emotions about all that is going on can be overwhelming on the spirit and draining on the body.
It’s times like this that my yoga practice is put to the test.
Seventeen years ago when I chose yoga in my life, I made an unspoken, conscious commitment to continue to strive to be awake. Now, that doesn’t mean I am always awake, sometimes I slip backwards and fall into that mindless abyss. Sometimes, that seems easier, safer. Then the yogi in me reminds me that is not who I am or who I want to be. Read more
The other day I was having a conversation with a girlfriend of mine about the difference between gossip and having an intentional conversation with a trusted friend while seeking feedback about an issue with a third party. This is what we discovered.
Gossip lacks integrity. If we look close enough we can uncover a deeper desire lying below the surface of gossip. When we look back at the times we engaged in gossip we discovered two aspects that seemed to surface the most: Read more
I love to see how Yoga has become such a big part of the greater community in our culture. People from all walks of life can be found in the studio today. I see Yoga mats strapped around the backs of people on every block. It’s not just here in San Francisco anymore; studios can be found in almost every town in America. It is referenced on TV, in ads, books, and magazines. It’s everywhere. What a dream!
But there is a shadow side to the community which I have noticed growing larger as Yoga reaches it’s tipping point. There is an infiltration of the media’s unrealistic images of Yoga that are seeping into the sight and minds of those of us who may not be paying close attention. These beautiful images plastered all over the studios, social media and the merchandise of extremely limber beings in poses that are almost impossible for the majority of us to achieve. Read more
Recently, I have had conversations with people who have been dealing with a lot of discomfort around embarking on new career endeavors. On the one hand they are excited and inspired, while on the other hand they feel really vulnerable and often question the viability of their efforts. Trust me, I understand the emotional roller coaster it can be to put yourself out there.
Taking a leap of faith into a whole new career, launching a new business on our own or doing something that brings us out of our comfort zone can leave us feeling uneasy.
Learning a new skill from scratch can make anyone feel unsure, especially when we enter a field surrounded by others who have been doing it a while.
Do you know those moments when life feels like it’s imploding on you?
Everything feels so overwhelming. The bills seem like they are piling up, communication feels like it’s not working, your heart can’t seem to stop breaking, things aren’t going the way you want, and the unknown future feels like it’s closing in on you.
What do you do in those moments? Read more